Domestic abuse comes in many forms.
In my upcoming book, Lacy’s End, (release date November 30, 2015) I’ve chosen to use physical abuse to demonstrate the extreme to which a person might go to control someone they’ve promised to love and protect. I’ve also chosen a figure of authority to be the abuser to show that a violent offender might often hide in the face of the public, or use a position of authority to control his or her victim(s).
It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive.
In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.
Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partners.
If you’re beginning to feel as if your partner or a loved one’s partner is becoming abusive, there are a few behaviors that you can look out for.
Watch out for these red flags and if you’re experiencing one or more of them in your relationship, call or chat online with an advocate to talk about what’s going on.
•Telling you that you can never do anything right
•Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
•Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
•Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
•Controlling every penny spent in the household
•Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
•Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
•Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
•Preventing you from making your own decisions
•Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
•Preventing you from working or attending school
•Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
•Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
•Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
•Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
IF YOU or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, there is help available. Please seek help or tell someone you trust. The national domestic violence hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Lacy’s End is-available for presale at a special price of 0.99.until November 30th.